文章的作者娜塔莎•丹尼尔斯说："每天早上我开车送孩子去上学,我看到有两个小姑娘自己走路去上学.从街边我就能辨认出她们背包上闪闪发光的名字."
2. COME UP WITH A CODE WORD
2.想一个共同的暗号
Code words are important to help protect your child from harmful situations.
在很多情况下暗号对保护孩子远离危险是非常重要的.
Having a code word is useful for a variety of situations. With your children, make up a family code word that is neither too common nor so bizarre that it would be hard to use naturally.
有个暗号在很多情况下都很有用.和你的孩子一起想一个家庭暗号,不要太普通也不要太奇怪,不然想要自然地使用这个暗号会很困难.
Children can then use the code word in different situations.
孩子们可以在不同情况下使用暗号.
For example, if you've sent someone to pick up your child - they should be aware of what the code word is so they'll know not to leave with anyone else.
比如,如果你让别人帮忙接孩子,他们需要知道暗号是什么,这样孩子就不会和其他人一起离开.
Alternatively, if a child is at a friend's house and somebody or something is making them feel unsafe, they can call you and say the code word to you over the phone so you'll know to get them out of the situation.
另外,如果孩子在朋友家,如果有人或有东西让他们感到危险,他们可以打电话给你并且说出暗号,这样你就知道有危险,然后把他们救出危境.
3. SAY NO TO 'BODY SECRETS'
3. 对"身体秘密"说不
When a child is sexually abused, they can often be told not to tell their parents about what has happened to them, and to keep it a secret between them and the abuser.
当孩子受到性侵,他们经常会被施虐者叮嘱不要告诉父母发生了什么事情,就让它成为孩子和施虐者之间的秘密.
Teaching your children to never keep 'body secrets' is important and they should know to tell you immediately if somebody has touched a part of their body and asked them to hide it from you.
但是很重要的一点是要教你的孩子明白永远不要有"身体的秘密".如果有人接触了他们身体的一部分并且让孩子对你保密,孩子应该马上告诉你发生了什么.
4. HOW TO ESCAPE BEING FOLLOWED
4.如何逃脱跟踪
The obvious conversation that you should have with your child is to teach them about stranger danger.
很明显你需要告诉孩子陌生人很危险.
More specifically, you should also teach them about the ways in which strangers can look. They don't always have a rough appearance and can appear to be perfectly normal.
更确切地说,你应该教他们怎么辨别陌生人.他们并不都长的很凶恶,有些人长得十分普通.
It is also highly important to point out that no matter what a stranger says, you should never leave with them or get into their car. The code word can also be helpful in this situation.
还有很重要的一点是无论陌生人说什么,孩子都不能和他们离开或到他们的车里去.在这种情况下暗号也是很有用的.
