"Many men are sensitive about their relationship with their mother, so suggesting he still wants or needs his mom is not a way to encourage him to change behavior you don't like ," Smith said.
史密斯说："许多男人对自己和母亲的关系很敏感,所以就算你嫌弃他现在还跟个孩子一样需要母亲照顾,他也不会有所改变."
7. "You never, you should have, you ought to..."
7．"你不能这样,你本来可以这样,你应该这样……"
Sorry, but chiding your spouse about how he never does the dishes (or takes out the trash or drives the kids to school) isn't likely to inspire change, Berger said.
很遗憾,责骂丈夫从未洗过碗（或者倒过垃圾甚至开车送孩子上学）可以说是徒劳无功的,伯格这样说道.
"It's much better to say, 'I'd appreciate it if you would empty the dishwasher tonight,' for example. And when he does, thank him and you can expect more help in the future," she said.
她解释："你最好这样说,'如果你今晚能把碗洗了的话,我会很开心.'诸如此类.一旦他同意了,别忘了谢谢他,这样说不定下次他还愿意帮你干活."
8. "You've put on a few pounds lately, huh?"
8．"喂,你最近是不是又胖了？"
Instead of pointing out changes in your spouse's appearance, be supportive and tell him you'd love if he joined you at your cycle class sometime, said Becky Whetstone, a Little Rock, Arkansas-based therapist.
美国阿肯色州小石城的治疗专家贝基•怀特斯通认为,与其对另一半的外貌变化指指点点,不如以爱之名,劝他和你一起去上健身课.
"Insinuating that his body is not like it once was will shrink his confidence ― and he'll probably up his calorie intake just to spite you!"
"含沙射影地嘲笑他的身材大不如从前会打击他的自信心,他可能会因此继续摄入更多的卡路里,这么做只为激怒你！"
9. "You're going out with the guys again?"
9．"你又准备出去和你的狐朋狗友鬼混？"
Don't look at Fantasy Football meet-ups and golf trips as threats to your marriage. It's quite the opposite, actually; some time apart will likely do your relationship good, Howes said.
豪斯建议,别总担心梦幻足球线下聚会和高尔夫球旅行会威胁到你们的婚姻幸福,其实情况恰恰相反.俗话说得好,�"鹗ば禄�.
"Yes, sometimes a guy's night is just an excuse to drink and fart but for many guys these are crucial times to connect, seek advice, get support and express some important emotions," he said. "Wives who feel threatened by this or forbid their husband from attending may be cutting off a vital support system."
他表示："当然,丈夫们所谓的夜生活有时不过是想找个地方酗酒和发泄的借口,但大部分情况下,这是找朋友谈天说地,寻求建议,获得支持,倾吐心声的重要时刻.要是妻子们对此心有疑虑或阻止丈夫出门,可能会丧失重要的外援团."
The biggest bonus of guy time, according to Howes, "There's a good chance he'll actually be a better husband if he can compare notes with other husbands and dads."
关于这种朋友聚会带来的最大收获,豪斯是这样解释的："在交流中,丈夫可以向其他同为人夫为人父的朋友们取取经,帮助他成为一个更好的丈夫."
英文来源：赫芬顿邮报
