丈夫最不想听妻子唠叨的九句话
9 Things Men Hate Hearing From Their Wives
You're bound to say some tone-deaf things to your spouse every so often ― but there are some phrases you should absolutely never say.
你一定经常唠叨一些话,但你的配偶对此置若罔闻.不过有些话最好还是不要再讲了.
We asked couple therapists to share the most annoying things men report hearing from their spouses. Of course, it goes both ways.
我们向一些情感诊疗专家咨询了这些丈夫最不想听到的话.反之亦然.
1. "Nevermind, I'll just do it myself."
1．"没事,我自己来."
Marriage pro tip: When you ask your spouse to call the plumber to fix the sink, give him a chance to do it. Rolling your eyes and saying, "nevermind, I'll do it myself" may result in you getting your sink fixed sooner, but it's also likely to rub your spouse the wrong way.
婚姻小贴士：在你需要丈夫帮忙打电话叫水管工来修洗碗槽时,不妨直接让他来修理,别对他翻个白眼说"算了,我自己来."也许这样做洗碗槽可以很快修好,但夫妻关系很可能会因此产生裂痕.
"Chances are, he wants to help you and make you happy," said Anne Crowley, an Austin, Texas-based psychologist. "It's a frustrating phrase for a husband to hear because it suggests you don't think he's capable of completing the task and don't need him."
美国得克萨斯州奥斯汀市的心理学家安妮•克劳利指出："他说不定很想帮助你,顺便讨你欢心.但如果你直接和他说你不需要,会让他顿感挫败,让他觉得你在质疑他的能力,甚至你根本不需要他."
2. "You should have known."
2."你应该懂我的意思."
You're setting yourself up for disappointment if you expect your hubby to decipher every last gesture and statement you make, said Ryan Howes, a clinical psychologist based in Pasadena, California.
美国加州帕沙迪纳市的临床心理学家瑞恩•豪斯认为,如果妻子期待丈夫能通过自己的每一个手势和每一段话语来读懂自己的心,一定会大失所望.
"Women become upset when their husbands can't read between the lines or read their minds but guys are notoriously poor mind readers," he said. "Wives will save themselves a lot of grief if they can come to accept this and just ask for what they want."
豪斯说："妻子会因为丈夫听不出自己的弦外之音或是看不透自己的小小心思而伤心.但男性本来就不擅长读心术.如果女士们都能接受这一点,说清自己到底想要什么,也就不必为此太难过."
3. "Do you think she's hot?"
3."你觉得她好看吗？"
Do you really want to know your husband's thoughts about an attractive woman? Probably not ― plus, you're putting your spouse in an uncomfortable, no-win situation, said Kurt Smith, a therapist who specializes in counseling men.
你是真的想知道丈夫如何看待那些窈窕淑女的吗？恐怕不是这样的.男性咨询方面的
